On the best of days, driving 12 hours in the car with your toddler is an adventure.
Today, it was just what I needed.
At 6 a.m., WonderDaddy tucked me, Widget, and our stuff into a rented minivan, turrned on the GPS, and drove us down South for a meeting. I’d been planning to go since well before my diagnosis, but when it came down to it, I wasn’t sure how to actually do so, when I wasn’t supposed to
- fly;
- be in a crowd; or
- stand up for too long as I recover from Thursday’s chemotherapy treatment.
So you know what? We decided to just try.
We drove straight through to Alabama, stopping for two rounds of running around grass lots, one lunch at Cracker Barrell, and nothing else.
Widget was (and is) an angel. We played games, talked, sang, did a sticker book, read books, and popped in an Andre Rieu DVD to sing him to sleep when he had trouble dropping off at naptime and again as the last hour loomed large at the end of the trip.
I slept. Or talked with WonderDaddy, having wonderfully intricate talks about the future, and plans, and ideas, as we have done on long trips in the car since college.
WonderDaddy, bless his heart, drove us South.
It was wonderful.
(This post was written Tuesday; sorry for the delayed post, but my internet access on travel was limited to nonexistant.)
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September 20, 2007 at 2:59 pm
Sounds awesome WhyMommy. Enjoy and relax; it is most certainly deserved!
September 20, 2007 at 4:35 pm
Wonder Daddy is indeed a wonder.
as, apparently, is Widget. and Little Bear. and you.
i love car talks when they’re not interrupted by screaming from the back seat.
September 20, 2007 at 4:47 pm
Oh, yay, YOU GUYS!!
What an uplifting post.
love to you all xo CGF
September 20, 2007 at 4:56 pm
Road trips do wonders for the soul. Especially when it’s to a place you really want to be at. I am so glad that you guys decided to just try going. I hope that you have a wonderful trip, and you get to relax some.
September 20, 2007 at 5:01 pm
Way to go! You continue to impress with your energy, enthusiasm and willingness to just try.
September 20, 2007 at 5:40 pm
Yay for road trips!
September 20, 2007 at 5:50 pm
Oh I’m so happy that you had a wonderful time! How good and uplifting for the body and soul.
September 20, 2007 at 6:47 pm
Sounds great, I had a rather difficult day in the car today. Fire trucks, fussy baby, running late, train stuck on the tracks…it felt like it wouldn’t end. On the bright side I got my test results back today and I am not going through chemo again! Woohoo!
September 20, 2007 at 7:47 pm
Glad you had an “uneventful” trip. I hope you enjoyed Cracker Barrel. I miss them so much!
September 20, 2007 at 7:48 pm
That sounds wonderful! I’m glad you did okay. It’s always harder with kids. Please be careful and let us know how it went when you get back!
September 20, 2007 at 9:26 pm
I’m so glad you got to do that!
September 20, 2007 at 9:32 pm
So, so awesome for you. What a total joy your family is. I can’t travel for more than three hours with my kiddos in the car (they are quite impatient in the car); consider yourselves blessed to have such a wonderful connection and peaceful babes. Enjoy your time and rest. Hugs -
September 20, 2007 at 9:42 pm
Sounds wonderful.
September 20, 2007 at 10:11 pm
I read your story in Parent’s mag, and I thought I’d share some encouragement. My aunt had breast cancer when her boys were 4 and 7 years old. I was in college, so I used to pick them up after school and entertain them to give her a break. It was hard for her not to enjoy every moment with them, but I think resting made their moments together better. She just moved her oldest to college, and the younger one just started high school. She will be in remission for 10 years this Christmas. Just a little glance into the future excitement you have yet to come. Not to mention all of those fun years in between!
September 20, 2007 at 11:41 pm
Sounds like you and WonderDaddy are a wonder-team!
September 21, 2007 at 2:55 am
Sounds like just the right adventure for you and your family!
September 21, 2007 at 4:48 am
My husband and I used to have the most amazing conversations on long trips in the car with little ones snoozing in the back. I had forgotten all about that.
Thanks for the reminder. We really need to do that again without the electronic distractions of home.
Glad you had a wonderful trip
September 21, 2007 at 8:57 am
I’m here from The Dana Files to grab your badge code and tell you that I’m joining Team WhyMommy. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, having chemo and taking care of young children, too. Oh, and my husband and I have also been road-tripping since college, and it’s when we have some of our greatest conversations.
September 21, 2007 at 9:50 am
Sounds like a nice trip – did you leave the bear home?
September 21, 2007 at 9:58 am
How wonderful you just did it! Good for you and hope you have many more “just do it” moments.
Hugs and pat on the back from across the pond.
September 21, 2007 at 10:46 am
Road trips are a wonderful chance to reconnect with your family, that’s why I like them. Glad you were able to get away.
September 21, 2007 at 11:31 am
That’s great to fit in a little trip, even if it doesn’t “make sense!”
Also, I have a quick question for you — could you E-mail me at punditmom1@gmail.com? Thanks!
September 21, 2007 at 11:31 am
Two fine, fine kiddies, YM. They will make phenomenal Mississippi State doctoral graduates.
(down boy! down YM! no scratching or clawing!) <:D
September 21, 2007 at 12:09 pm
OOohhhh! Sounds like some fun!!!!
Yay WonderDaddy!
September 21, 2007 at 12:50 pm
Ah, road trips and intimate talks with the hubby. Gotta love it.
September 21, 2007 at 3:18 pm
Wait! When are you coming back? Are you driving through Georgia?
September 21, 2007 at 3:52 pm
You were in Alabama and you didn’t call!!
I kid.
Sounds like a wonderful trip. Glad it was a success.
September 21, 2007 at 8:14 pm
Whymommy,
I hope your trip home was OK. It was GREAT to see you!!! You look GREAT!! I hope you didn’t find it too stressful, seeing all those people who know you but maybe didn’t know of your diagnosis. You seemed much more comfortable towards the end of the meeting than you did that first night. And that was wonderful to see.
I hope you didn’t wear yourself out too much. Rest up. Hug Little Bear. I had a lovely reunion with my girls this evening. The 7 year old was, “oh, yeah, hi”. But the 2 year old was very sweet in her excitement to see me.
September 21, 2007 at 11:50 pm
Wonderful.
September 22, 2007 at 6:13 am
Hi. I am Andrea. I am 37 and a mother of 6( youngest is Clay is nearly one). I was diagnosed with stage 4 IBC in May. The day after I graduated from Temple University. I just finished chemo. My double mastectomy is scheduled for October 11th. If you want someone to talk to about motherhood and cancer let me know. I have a blog too called punkrockmommy.org. God bless you dear. I am praying for you and your family.
September 23, 2007 at 10:15 pm
Yeay for you. And yeah for Wonderdaddy too.
September 23, 2007 at 11:06 pm
Hi, WhyMommy. Its me. Again. Sorry to bother you. But I have this overwhelmingly odd feeling that YOU are the woman I was going to refer YOUR blog to! (If your in-laws are who I think they are, they were at my little brother’s wedding in April. And they can do a great polka! heehee) I didn’t mention this blog to my sis-in-law in case you are who I think you are and want to keep your blog a “private” matter amongst family.
Sorry if I sound like a complete wierdo/stalker. If you do get some time and energy, I’d love for you to e-mail me at mother of bun at yahoo dot com. If not, I completely understand.
September 25, 2007 at 12:34 am
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