You people, you wonderful people, are making it impossible for me to stay sad.
First, the comments. The wonderful, supportive comments to my last post (and every post!) are making me cry.
Then, the copying and pasting of my post on inflammatory breast cancer. In the last two days, I’ve seen 40 links — and a Perfect Post award, from Fenicle. Awesome. That makes me happy.
Mail call. I know I’ve been stubborn and not given out my name/address to you guys from the internet, but the
anonymyty anonmyty stubbornness is just an attempt to keep my kids safe, since I’m sharing everything else with you. I don’t need anything. Just love and words from you.
But I have to share with you what some of my longtime friends and family are sending, because they are just too wonderful to keep to myself. And maybe one of you will steal these ideas if you have a close friend going through cancer, another illness, or a longterm bed rest:
Toys for the kids. My cousin sent little toy cars for the boys to play with, and cute outfits for the baby, and a surprise package for Widget (which I’ve been saving for today when I come home from chemo and am too tired to play). I think it’s hardest on the little ones when Mama can’t come down and play like she used to. (Well, this part sucks for Mama too.)
Surprise bags for Widget, and me, and Wonderdaddy. NYfriend sent a BIG box full of little brown paper bags, each with a wonderful craft, or activity, or bit o’ fun for us to do together, along with a physics joke in EVERY bag, to keep me laughing. Yesterday’s was a sampling of six different pine cones, along with a photocopied sheet with pictures of the kinds of trees that they came from — and a drop of paint on each to identify them. Way cool.
Canape and Clifford sent me an iPod. I know, I am not worthy. I SO totally am not. But I’ve hereby been dragged into the 21st century, and I am taking it with me to chemo today, to drown out the sounds and hospital smells, and hopefully it will help. Oh, and the BEST PART? The part that I especially encourage you to emulate with your friends? They PRELOADED it with 478 songs from the 80’s that they remembered from our teenage years together. Awesome. Stimey sent some songs along too! Whoo-hoo!
A way cool large-muscle-play toy for Widget and me and Wonderdaddy and Little Bear all to enjoy together. It’s called the Cranium SuperFort, and I suspect a mom from playgroup sent it, but I haven’t been able to confirm that yet. :-) We’ve sure been enjoying it, though!
Grandma and Paw-Paw just arrived to help and brought me comfy clothes to recover in.
Grammy and Grampa have been cooking meals and watching the kids for the better part of the last month. I wouldn’t have been able to do this without them.
And last, only because we just discovered it, is a big pink bag from the Chemo Fairies. My playgroup has conspired to deliver a big pink bag of goodies on Chemo Day (again!) filled with chocolate, comfy socks, homemade goodies, olive oil scented soaps, a funny book, stickers, a big red hat, and…a tiara. That’s right. A tiara, just like I’ve been wearing this week in Second Life. And on the top, it says “WhyMommy Rocks!”
Tee hee. You made me laugh. And, faced with another difficult day of hair coming out in clumps while I’m just trying to take a shower, for Pete’s sake, spending the day at the hospital, lookin’ bald, and waiting out the pain so I can describe it better to the oncologist, making me laugh this morning was pretty close to a miracle.
The chemo fairies have done it again. You all have.
Someone asked me last night how Team WhyMommy is helping me. I think this is a pretty good sampling. Team WhyMommy is lifting my spirits, helping me laugh again, entertaining my kids, and turning bad days into good. As if they all were wearing tiaras and using their magic wands.
And now, off to Chemo.