Overcome.

The past few days have been almost surreal with the intensity of emotion and experience for my best friend and me.  In one week, between us, we have experienced a double mastectomy and the birth of a child.  We have lost breasts and, in the same week, learned firsthand how they can nourish a newborn babe.  Experienced intense pain and intense hope.  Unbelievable fear, and indescribable joy.  And through it all, you have been there with us.  You have held our hands, sent your words, said your prayers, and you have made all the difference in our lives.  In her life.  In my life.  Today, I am overwhelmed by the love and support that you have shown me this week, and throughout my illness.  Thank you.  It has really touched me, and I love you all.

I just spoke to Canape on the phone.  She sounds so great.  So tired, but so happy.  Little Bird (who now has a name!) is a beautiful, beautiful, baby who is so good already.  But of course.  And he comes into a world so welcoming, so wonderful.  I am convinced of that now. 

Are you?  Are you convinced of the power of women to make a difference in a fellow mom’s life?  Are you convinced of the power of bloggers to touch people’s lives in “real life” in general?  Perhaps you will be, after you see the list of mommies and bloggers who supported me this week, in addition to the hundreds and hundreds of supportive comments that appeared on this blog, the real-time tweets and messages, and all the email that has come in from friends and family.  Click any of the blog names below to see their love notes to me this week.  This is my love note to them.  Thank you, mamas.  I’m going to make it through this, with your love and support.

Hugs and gratitude and love this week to Canape, Mamma Loves, DC Metro Moms, Stimeyland, Lawyer Mama, Queen of Spain, Slouching Mom, Motherhood Uncensored, I Can’t Complain Anymore Than Usual, Two Is Now Three, Two Lines on a Stick, It’s Not About That Anyway, Around the Island, A Decent Bookmark, A Mother’s Musings, The Dairy WifeDirty Laundry, All Things Angela, Anderson FamilyKim at BabyCenter, Baby Makes Family, Bubba’s Sis, Bubblewench, Coming to a Nursery Near You, Crazy Bananas, Do You Not Know What Causes That?, Pretty Babies, I Can Fly, Just Not Up, The Further Adventures of SpaceMom, GoodyBlog, Harmony in Motion, Hotfessional, Jen Lemen, Useless Ramblings, Tumble Dry, House of H, Fertile Mertile, What Works for Us, Mountain Momma, Coffee, Shoes, and Ramblings, Dirty Laundry, My Five Little Monkies, My Life As It Is, My Collective Life, Crib Chronicles, Karaoke Diva, Live from the Wang of America, Mom 2 2 Teens, A Bead a Day, Blonde Mom Blog, The Estrogen Files, The Farm House Kids, The Dana Files, The Fourth k h, Growing a Pair, Her Bad MotherHormone Colored Days, Just Another Mommy Blog, Just Enjoy Him, Lead Baby, Playgroups Are No Place for Children, Petroville, Phoenix Says, Pundit Mom, Daily Verses, Little Buggas, Sarah and the Goon Squad, So D.C., Chicken and Cheese,  Zone Family, Life with Our Little Ladies, Andria and Co., “That” Psycho Family, Sassafrass, Ladybug & Lizards, Parentopia, Plans2Match, Marie MillardMiss Zoot, Mrs. Fussypants, The Magpie Files, Make Mine a Quad, Nervous Girl, Mommy Needs a Cocktail, Mom, Ma’am, Me, Mommy and the Marine, Monkey Business, Monkeys and Marbles, The Mummy Chronicles, Never Too Late, Okay, Fine, D’it, Ontario Emperor, It’s My Life, Laugh if you Must, Mommy Dance, Slacker-moms-r-us, The Blogs of Life, Midwestern Mommy, Mommy to the Snugglebunnies, PediaScribe, The Pile I’m Standing In, The Ramblings of a WomanReality Testing, The Road to Home, TechMamas, Ten Minutes to Naptime, Tiny MantrasHearts Wide Open, Baby Cubed, The Butrfly Garden, Reflecting, Sunrays and SaturdaysAmy and ChrisUseless Ramblings, Veritable Life, Mayberry Mom, The Musing Mommy, Wheels on the Bus, Working Mama 24/7, Mommy Needs Coffee writing at BlogHer … BabyMinding, Life with Hannah and Lilly, Mommy … etc., Kat and Rob, My Collective Life, ….

I am overcome.

53 Responses to Overcome.

  1. ~JJ! says:

    Love you to pieces!

  2. Mrs. Chicken says:

    You only get back what you put out in the world, Susan. Our love for you is just a reflection of your own big heart.

    xoxox

  3. I think you get what you give. You’ve given your real self to us, showing us the rawness of your struggle – and I think for alot of us, it’s a welcome relief to the bullsh*t blogs out there that are all wine & roses. Those of us who appreciate honesty, even in the darkness, appreciate you.🙂 I am so glad that you have been able to come through this experience with such a surity and a calmness. You’re truly amazing!

  4. BetteJo says:

    I am in awe of your strength and I don’t know, it just seems like someone who can put up such a good fight deserves the best outcome!

  5. Emily says:

    Dawn is right. You have gotten so much support because you have inspired us with your light and courage.

  6. MammaLoves says:

    “I’m going to make it through this, with your love and support.”

    And that makes it all worth it!!

  7. Angela says:

    Susan–that first paragraph and the way that you contrasted those two experiences made me tear right up. This place is, in my humble opinion, is one of the most important places on the web, for a million different reasons. Not just because you share your journey as a cancer patient or as a mom or a wife or a blogger or a friend. But because it is a testimony to how the web, when it is under the direction of the right fingertips and hearts, can generate *true* good. You have inspired so much of that. When are you going to write a book? Are you? Huh?

  8. Mrs. Chicken is right. Much love to you, darlin’.
    xoxoxoxo

  9. so many xx’s and oo’s to you, warrior woman!

  10. Jenn says:

    Much love to you. You blow me away with your honesty and bravery. YOU are making a difference to us. To me. Thank you. xoxo

  11. Becki says:

    You are indeed going to make it through this. I’m so proud of you and so grateful that you are sharing your fight. Who knows who you’ve inspired or made feel a little braver as she faces her own fight?

  12. Suebob says:

    That you found the strength to make a link post like that amazes me. I know it is a lot of work.

    All my best.

  13. whymommy says:

    Suebob — Canape started the list for me last week over at her site. Then I kept reading and reading and was so taken aback at the generosity of spirit in this part of the blogosphere that I had to add as I read. It’s so very, very little compared to the strength they’ve given me.

  14. Diana says:

    I am clicking through from Blogher, don’t know where I’ve been all this time that I’ve missed out on your story but wanted to give you all my best! Your strength is amazing and inspiring all at once. ((hugs))

  15. I learned that you were having surgery on the day of…and then I saw that you were out and twittering, and even though I didn’t know you, I was overjoyed. So I went back and “met” you through your blog, and I’m thrilled to know you. God bless Twitter, which brings such good people into my life.

    You are, indeed, a woman warrior, in the most articulate and authentic way. I’m glad your surgery’s over and you can go back to being “me,” although you have clearly been yourself throughout.

    Namaste

  16. Ally says:

    This network of love and support for you goes so far beyond even the “walls” of the internet. Today in church and elderly woman named Margaret came up to me and inquired, “How’s your friend Susan doing?” Margaret is part of the prayer chain at church and has been quietly praying for you all week. I know this is true for many other church communities as well (including my dad’s in Oregon). XOXO

  17. cate says:

    i’m so glad you came through surgery so well. i was constantly watching the Twitter updates to see how you were doing!

    you are truly an amazing and strong woman. i am in awe of your courage and spirit.

    much love, and hope the recovery is super fast!

  18. Stimey says:

    It’s really cool that you and Canape get to celebrate new beginnings together.

    You are an amazing woman.

  19. justenjoyhim says:

    Oh, Susan. You’re the best, the absolute best!!!

    Warmest wishes of a speedy recovery.

    You are my beacon of hope. Of success. Of wonderment.

    You’re wonderful.

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  22. Alison says:

    You are unbelievable!! Your strength, and Canape’s too, amazes me!
    My day isn’t complete until I check in with the two of you for my dose of inspiration! 🙂
    Stay strong!
    Thinking of you!

  23. N. Taber says:

    My church’s Prayer Chain was also thrilled to hear you were home and healing. I included a link to your IBC page in my update to them, so they’ve no further excuse for ignorance.🙂 Blessings to you and your family.

  24. Kimberly says:

    Much love to you. You’re bravery is an inspiration to us all. Thinking of you!

  25. Dawn says:

    You rock🙂 You enjoy those hawt summer clothes!

  26. dick&judy says:

    Susan,
    You are amazing. You could write a book about all that has happened, but I don’t think it would beat this online site. Carpe Diem.
    Love from Mississippi,
    Dick & Judy Foster

  27. Thanks for making us all aware of IBC. I always thought it was just an overpriced bottle of rootbeer! Now I’m far more educated thanks to you!

  28. C'tina says:

    I’m in Chesapeake in S. Eastern VA and am going to sign up as a volunteer for Amercian Cancer Society’s Road to Recovery Program. Let me know if there is anything I can do, even though I gather you are in the D.C. area–I’m a sahm of two boys ages 10 and 6, and want to help. Rest as well as you can to stay strong.

  29. Mary Beth says:

    I just found your site I understand everything that you are going through because I am also a member of this “club”. I will be a 21 month survivor tomorrow. My son is 7 and he knows more about breasts/real and reconstructed and cancer than most adults. Who knows maybe our boys will cure cancer one day. I am amazed that you are blogging clearly so soon after surgery. One of the best gifts a friend sent were small pillows 10″ x 14″. You can use them under you arms or even to protect your chest from sudden “kid” jolts. When you can sleep on your side again they are useful. I still sleep with one today. Be well and I hope you heal swiftly. Life after cancer is different, but you will find your new normal. Blessings….

  30. Christy says:

    You know what? I’m really happy that Little Bird decided to make his grand entrance the same week that you had your “mass” exit!!

    Widget and Little Bear will love having a new little WonderBuddy to play with!

  31. Dana says:

    We love you so much. And I am so lucky to have met you in this forum called blogging. Without you, I’d never have known what IBC was. And although it seems unfortunate to discover your blog under the circumstances of cancer, I think it’s a beautiful miracle to meet you, my friend. Regardless of never meeting in person the many bloggers we adore — the bonds are still strong and will last a lifetime.

  32. Tela says:

    What an amazing woman you are…

  33. motherofbun says:

    We adore you, lady. Course, I guess you already figured that out. heehee.

  34. HolyMama! says:

    i can’t imagine what you’ve been through, and i’m inspired at the grace in your words. i’m here for the first time, shocked at reading about IBC. I’ve read about it, posted about it, listed symptoms, but never known of anyone who had to deal with it. You are lovely, and a survivor, and I am already so thankful for you.

  35. strugi says:

    I read your post, thought about it, and decided to let you know that I believe that you are getting the support that you give to others…but I see that I am not the first.

    So, use the support and let it help you thrive. Help Canape celebrate Little Bird.

  36. Imstell says:

    I love the first paragraph. Full circle. Appropriate. Wonderful. As are you and Canape.

  37. NYfriend says:

    I am amazed, once again.

    Words fail me tonight.

    Hugs🙂

  38. Much love and prayers for you.
    Mwah!
    hugs, alli

  39. Carrie says:

    You are doing so amazingly well. Keep it up!

  40. I am overcome by the commitment all those links would have taken.

    Or perhaps you know of a secret way of doing it that wouldn’t take 11 hours!

    Healing vibes.

  41. jackieb27 says:

    You go girl! Fight like you have never fought before!

  42. So glad to see you back and bloggin’!
    You are one strong and inspiring lady🙂

  43. tracey says:

    Sweetie, you rock. What a lovely post.

    Hope you’re feeling well today…

  44. slackermommy says:

    I was a little late in posting mine but that didn’t mean you weren’t in my thoughts and prayers.

    This is what is so great about the blogosphere. No matter how rough of a time you are having there are so many offering a virtual hug to get you through.

    Take care.

  45. Phoenix says:

    Keep taking care of yourself. You’ve got a huge group of people supporting and pulling for you.

  46. You are Amazing!! Take care of YOU!!
    My candles are still lit, still sending you load’s of Positive healing energy’s!!
    Brightest Blessings to All..

  47. Sheila says:

    Your life force is an inspiration.

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  49. Damselfly says:

    “Are you convinced of the power of women to make a difference in a fellow mom’s life?” Yes! You have, definitely.

  50. Amanda says:

    As being a reader/participant on your blog has been a privilege, so too have been the opportunities to respond, to pay back your candor with our words.

  51. You both are so brave.

    Susan, I know you know what a dear true friend you have in Canape. You’re both lucky dudes!

    Tanya

  52. skabeagle says:

    Susan, so thrilled to hear you are now cancer free. My friend I used to work with at M&S have prayed for you every night and have a lit a candle for you at Old St. Paul’s Church in B’more each week at Wednesday services. Hope this finds you stronger and better each day. We thank God for you and your story that encourages other women and girls daily to “overcome”.

  53. As always I love it when you stop by my blog and link to something you wrote. Then I come over this way and read and am boggled at the comment section of every post. Your support group is so astounding and I feel so small when I even try to imagine all the love out there that has been with you, and grown with you, for your entire journey.

    What’s even more astounding is how I found you at the same time I was going through something so similar – but yet so dissimilar to your experience. Maybe it’s one more indication that no matter what separates us; age, variety of illness, stage of illness, etc, our ability to adapt and somehow work with what we’re given unites us.

    I cant wait til I meet you later this month at the twitter event in Rockville. You’re a superstar in my book.

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