This is beautiful.

Fred Scarf, you’re a good one.

What I like most about the CNN story I just linked to is that even though he lost his friend to cancer, 20-year-old Fred decided to take — and took — a positive step to make life better for someone else.  His words are beautiful and inspiring.  And listen to one of the cancer survivors he has helped, 15-year-old Samantha Ashburn: “I don’t know how long I have here. So I want to live it up….” 

It’s funny. Before I got cancer, I would have thought, “how sad.”  But now, I know exactly what she means.  It’s a simple fact of life.  There’s no time to waste — let’s get living!  I forget that sometimes, and get wallowed in the sadness and the anger (which is many times worse when I am tired or in pain, and this week has been awful in that respect).  But I don’t want to live that way.  I don’t want to be remembered that way.  I want to leave more behind than words of sadness.  And more importantly — I want to live my life differently, helping others, as opposed to bringing anybody down with sad words.  I’m not fishing for comments here.  I’m okay.  But I am determined to work through my own list today (my kids are off blueberry picking) and stop the sadness that comes with being so tired.  The fatigue is normal — they call it radiation fatigue for a reason — and I will gain more energy in the weeks and months after I finish treatment.  For now, I’ll do what I can and call it good.

There’s no time to waste — let’s get living!

10 Responses to This is beautiful.

  1. Amen! This is an important message for everyone to hear.

  2. Let’s. Get. LIVING!!

    yes, yes, yes.

  3. Melissa says:

    As Sunday said, we all need to hear this. Often.

    Continued good thoughts and best wishes to you.

  4. Miss Britt says:

    We all need to get living. I think those of us who haven’t been diagnosed with a serious illness forget that we have no more of a guarantee on days left to live than you do.

    Thanks for the reminder!

  5. Great story. I like the notion of never going off the list. Carpe diem!

  6. Amanda says:

    No, you aren’t fishing for comments, you are planting inspiration. And I thank you.

  7. Kathy says:

    Thank you for sharing this. It’s two thirty in the a.m. and I’m having an “oh, poor me” moment. Recurrent cancer and its treatment suck. But – I have lived my life. I’m not a mom with small kids and a future threatened by the beast. I’m not a teenager wondering if I’ll ever feel well enough to live a “regular” teen’s life. I’m a granny and have had those moments.
    Thank you for sharing Fred and his work – and for reminding me of how blessed I am. Back to llving life!
    With love and hugs –
    Kathy

  8. carosgram says:

    Thanks for introducing Fred to me. What a great kid and what a way to honor a friendship! Sometimes it is hard for me to remember that kids with cancer are still kids and want to live and do all the things that kids like to do. Just like young mothers like to do. Thinking of you and wishing you the best

  9. NYFriend says:

    So important and so often forgotten – Yes, let’s get living!

    Thank you for reminding me again, I appreciate it very much. 🙂

  10. Ellen Patton says:

    Fred Scarf is inspirational!
    Great idea! Just wonderful!

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